I'm still slightly reluctant to necessarily say that the desire-shaming reading of the vid is the only one possible, For the record, that seemed to be a very minor reaction at the con. Some people felt it to be shaming, many people I spoke to found it celebratory and completely hot from start to finish, some people were relieved to see it addressed and most people found it interesting as a benchmark against which to position oneself. Of course it's a completely legitimate reading to feel that the vidder is shaming others/themselves--I'm not saying that's incorrect, but it certainly isn't the only reading.
To me the vid is clearly a vid from slash fandom talking to slash fandom (and not meant to be read in a context wider than that). I suspect the discussion around it has grown muddled from what you've said above (I've been away--this is the first I've read about it).
And re. the 'your kink is still ok' thing? Yes, totally. I am close friends with people that found that vid HOT HOT HOT and completely unproblematic from start to finish. I respect and love them, I just don't agree with them. These things are personal. :)
Re: my kink is not your kink but your kink is ok
For the record, that seemed to be a very minor reaction at the con. Some people felt it to be shaming, many people I spoke to found it celebratory and completely hot from start to finish, some people were relieved to see it addressed and most people found it interesting as a benchmark against which to position oneself. Of course it's a completely legitimate reading to feel that the vidder is shaming others/themselves--I'm not saying that's incorrect, but it certainly isn't the only reading.
To me the vid is clearly a vid from slash fandom talking to slash fandom (and not meant to be read in a context wider than that). I suspect the discussion around it has grown muddled from what you've said above (I've been away--this is the first I've read about it).
And re. the 'your kink is still ok' thing? Yes, totally. I am close friends with people that found that vid HOT HOT HOT and completely unproblematic from start to finish. I respect and love them, I just don't agree with them. These things are personal. :)