It's an idea I like too. Perhaps it partly stems from being an only child and physically a long way from my family for most of my life so I wasn't so close to them. The fact I'm married to someone who by choice and necessity isn't close to his family, our perception of importance is rather more stressed on our friends - the people we choose - than necessarily family.
But then again, I think that's indicative of the decreasing size of families and the increased mobility of first world populations and our changing culture. Friends are now reasonably likely to be the people you are closest to, who know you best.
Which isn't to say that I'm not close to my parents, because I am - they're wonderful people.
Maybe the best way to put it is, we should be able to choose our families. When you have a child as part of your nuclear family you have this huge leg-up on them wanting you as part of their chosen family. You have this unique and wonderful opportunity; unless you really screw up, you're almost guaranteed that they will choose you. But the fact that people seem to take that relationship for granted instead of seeing it that way is...a shame sometimes?
But, um, yes. FINDER! I do remember that, and remember chuckling at it and thinking it sounded a lot like marriage without the inherent concept of it being a romantic partnership and thinking that made sense.
Re: Making family
But then again, I think that's indicative of the decreasing size of families and the increased mobility of first world populations and our changing culture. Friends are now reasonably likely to be the people you are closest to, who know you best.
Which isn't to say that I'm not close to my parents, because I am - they're wonderful people.
Maybe the best way to put it is, we should be able to choose our families. When you have a child as part of your nuclear family you have this huge leg-up on them wanting you as part of their chosen family. You have this unique and wonderful opportunity; unless you really screw up, you're almost guaranteed that they will choose you. But the fact that people seem to take that relationship for granted instead of seeing it that way is...a shame sometimes?
But, um, yes. FINDER! I do remember that, and remember chuckling at it and thinking it sounded a lot like marriage without the inherent concept of it being a romantic partnership and thinking that made sense.