Ahahahaa. Okay, you win the comments. ;) But yes, I get what you mean, which is, I think, where this whole post stems from? Because, due to the fact they're (a) fictional and (b) not part of a disturbing media trend, I'm not sure I feel that anyone needs to self-examine anyways, BUT, to use your example, things that are not part of a larger trend don't get a pass just because of that. Male victims of domestic violence are victims of a far lesser (in numerical terms) global issue but that doesn't mean it's not worth consideration. So if - going back to the world of fandom - this type of violence is part of a fandom trend that's nonetheless prevalent in certain parts of fandom, then okay, cool, that's still a worthy topic for discussion (albeit a discussion I imagine is not clearcut).
But it's the conflation of the issue with other issues, and the conflation of the issue with a fandom-wide issue in some quarters that annoys me. Which in itself is partially because, like you, I get tired of being conflated with slash fandom because I'm a straight girl. And...then we get into murky waters of personal bias and personal response and I'm sure there are loads of slash fans out there tired of getting mistaken for het people (*wistfully thinks of a day when ANYONE will get default mistaken for a gen fan...* :p)
Which, to get back to the point, it's not so much the vid as the social response to the vid which is reminding me of an awful lot of my deep-seated annoyed-feelings about fandom in general. I don't think the fact my response is tied up with personal experience and bias makes it totally dismissable or irrational, but I do think it's worth noting that a lot of this is basically me going, ARGH. WHY IS IT ABOUT BOYS AGAIN. ALWAYS WITH THE BOYSSSS.
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Date: 2010-08-25 01:26 pm (UTC)Ahahahaa. Okay, you win the comments. ;) But yes, I get what you mean, which is, I think, where this whole post stems from? Because, due to the fact they're (a) fictional and (b) not part of a disturbing media trend, I'm not sure I feel that anyone needs to self-examine anyways, BUT, to use your example, things that are not part of a larger trend don't get a pass just because of that. Male victims of domestic violence are victims of a far lesser (in numerical terms) global issue but that doesn't mean it's not worth consideration. So if - going back to the world of fandom - this type of violence is part of a fandom trend that's nonetheless prevalent in certain parts of fandom, then okay, cool, that's still a worthy topic for discussion (albeit a discussion I imagine is not clearcut).
But it's the conflation of the issue with other issues, and the conflation of the issue with a fandom-wide issue in some quarters that annoys me. Which in itself is partially because, like you, I get tired of being conflated with slash fandom because I'm a straight girl. And...then we get into murky waters of personal bias and personal response and I'm sure there are loads of slash fans out there tired of getting mistaken for het people (*wistfully thinks of a day when ANYONE will get default mistaken for a gen fan...* :p)
Which, to get back to the point, it's not so much the vid as the social response to the vid which is reminding me of an awful lot of my deep-seated annoyed-feelings about fandom in general. I don't think the fact my response is tied up with personal experience and bias makes it totally dismissable or irrational, but I do think it's worth noting that a lot of this is basically me going, ARGH. WHY IS IT ABOUT BOYS AGAIN. ALWAYS WITH THE BOYSSSS.