So, as usual, I love your words and intelligence. You offer a far more concise explanation of why critique vids have these issues (the question of when failure to communicate a critique renders it simple reproduction of the offending material), as well as a powerful argument about why a shameful reading of the vid is extremely problematic.
I'm still slightly reluctant to necessarily say that the desire-shaming reading of the vid is the only one possible, given that I have also seen comments celebrating the vid (albeit far, far fewer), and a fair number that simply responded with curiosity at where their line was - at how far their kink went before it was no longer their kink - without it seeming to elicit any particularly shameful self-criticism.
That's kind of why I tried to root the post more in terms of how I felt the wider vidding community was beginning to frame the vid as it spread - what social narrative was forming around this vid.
And in that context, I cannot agree with you more. Whether or not it was the intention of the vidders, the vid is, by now, quite strongly rooted in critique that, as you say, elicits lady boners and then shames them. If this were some endemic real world social issue that media-endorsed fantasies were complicit in normalising (such as sexualised violence against women) then perhaps there would be leeway and a basis for self-examination. As things stand, it does end up playing far more as something that proclaims kink fantasies to be dangerous and shameful.
I also imagine that if this were in any way my kink, I would feel far more strongly about this than I do, and completely respect both your passion and your articulation of the issues.
And now, in retaliation, I'm off to watch a certain TV show to take some notes for a certain vid about a certain girl we might have discussed. :)
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Re: my kink is not your kink but your kink is ok
Date: 2010-08-25 02:28 pm (UTC)I'm still slightly reluctant to necessarily say that the desire-shaming reading of the vid is the only one possible, given that I have also seen comments celebrating the vid (albeit far, far fewer), and a fair number that simply responded with curiosity at where their line was - at how far their kink went before it was no longer their kink - without it seeming to elicit any particularly shameful self-criticism.
That's kind of why I tried to root the post more in terms of how I felt the wider vidding community was beginning to frame the vid as it spread - what social narrative was forming around this vid.
And in that context, I cannot agree with you more. Whether or not it was the intention of the vidders, the vid is, by now, quite strongly rooted in critique that, as you say, elicits lady boners and then shames them. If this were some endemic real world social issue that media-endorsed fantasies were complicit in normalising (such as sexualised violence against women) then perhaps there would be leeway and a basis for self-examination. As things stand, it does end up playing far more as something that proclaims kink fantasies to be dangerous and shameful.
I also imagine that if this were in any way my kink, I would feel far more strongly about this than I do, and completely respect both your passion and your articulation of the issues.
And now, in retaliation, I'm off to watch a certain TV show to take some notes for a certain vid about a certain girl we might have discussed. :)