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beccatoriaSo, something awesome happened today that I am going to share with YOU, interwebs, because I love you.
A friend's been dating this awesome person for a while which is great, because when your friends date awesome people, you get to make new awesome friends. Now, this person is pretty quiet, likes to listen to everyone else more than to herself, but from a few comments, I knew that she wasn't really a big fan of comics, they made her kinda uncomfortable - I am pretty sure she classed them in the same category as lad's mags other stuff that's basically porn you can read on the train. Like I said, she's a quiet person, a few comments from her constituted a forceful opinion.
The thing that's interesting to me about this, though, is that her opinion wasn't formed in a vacuum. It's not like she had a media stereotype in her head. The guy she's dating - our friend - reads a lot of comics we lend him and doesn't read a huge amount of books beyond that. I haaaate gratuitous cheesecake and shitty depictions of women in mainstream cape books, and the books our mate was reading reflect that - but we were mostly lending him mainstream cape books, and it made me realise how numbed I am to how they look.
And damn, man, it just made me sad. And also nostalgic for those days when I didn't really read cape books, I read whatever trades were available at the library because I was a broke teenage girl and didn't even know where the local comic shop was. And honestly, it's rose-tinted spectacles of enormity if I say that none of that shit made me uncomfortable or made me wonder why I was reading it or didn't have shitty depictions of women - not to mention how confusing it is to read like ONE trade from near the end of Marvelman, because hell if I knew what order things were sposed to be in - but...that's when I fell in love with the medium, even though I spent the ten years after that wandering in and out.
And I wanted to do that for my new friend. So when it was her birthday, just recently, I thought to myself, fuck it. I am going to buy her a comic. I am going to buy her a comic that a) features a woman as a main character, b) is not drawn in an exploitative manner (and that will be defined broadly), and c) is self-contained.
So first I went and got depressed at how difficult this was. I basically had to write off superhero stuff entirely except for possibly Batwoman but I felt even that had too many ties to the wider DCU to be an easy entry point and besides, I wanted to show her that it's not all a genre where spandex is an entry requirement.
In the end I settled on the first volume of Fables. When I gave it to her I said, more or less, "this is a comic that will not make you feel like you need a shower." I honestly thought that would be an end to it - perhaps I'd get a polite "Oh, it was fun!" in a few weeks. I honestly suspected it might sit on her shelf gathering dust forever, and I would not have judged her for it.
Instead, I started getting texts about how much she liked it - how easy it was to read, how she wasn't expecting to be so engrossed she finished it in one sitting, how much fun it was and what should she read next.
Today she dragged her boyfriend shopping for new comics; I got a panicked text from him - they didn't have the next Fables! What did I suggest instead! - I missed out on answering because I was at my new job where I'm still nervous enough I don't let myself check my phone unless I'm on break - but apparently she bought the first volume of Madame Xanadu because she thought it looked cool.
And that's my story, interwebs. Just one more of the million examples of how it's not that chicks don't dig comics, they just don't dig exploitation.
A friend's been dating this awesome person for a while which is great, because when your friends date awesome people, you get to make new awesome friends. Now, this person is pretty quiet, likes to listen to everyone else more than to herself, but from a few comments, I knew that she wasn't really a big fan of comics, they made her kinda uncomfortable - I am pretty sure she classed them in the same category as lad's mags other stuff that's basically porn you can read on the train. Like I said, she's a quiet person, a few comments from her constituted a forceful opinion.
The thing that's interesting to me about this, though, is that her opinion wasn't formed in a vacuum. It's not like she had a media stereotype in her head. The guy she's dating - our friend - reads a lot of comics we lend him and doesn't read a huge amount of books beyond that. I haaaate gratuitous cheesecake and shitty depictions of women in mainstream cape books, and the books our mate was reading reflect that - but we were mostly lending him mainstream cape books, and it made me realise how numbed I am to how they look.
And damn, man, it just made me sad. And also nostalgic for those days when I didn't really read cape books, I read whatever trades were available at the library because I was a broke teenage girl and didn't even know where the local comic shop was. And honestly, it's rose-tinted spectacles of enormity if I say that none of that shit made me uncomfortable or made me wonder why I was reading it or didn't have shitty depictions of women - not to mention how confusing it is to read like ONE trade from near the end of Marvelman, because hell if I knew what order things were sposed to be in - but...that's when I fell in love with the medium, even though I spent the ten years after that wandering in and out.
And I wanted to do that for my new friend. So when it was her birthday, just recently, I thought to myself, fuck it. I am going to buy her a comic. I am going to buy her a comic that a) features a woman as a main character, b) is not drawn in an exploitative manner (and that will be defined broadly), and c) is self-contained.
So first I went and got depressed at how difficult this was. I basically had to write off superhero stuff entirely except for possibly Batwoman but I felt even that had too many ties to the wider DCU to be an easy entry point and besides, I wanted to show her that it's not all a genre where spandex is an entry requirement.
In the end I settled on the first volume of Fables. When I gave it to her I said, more or less, "this is a comic that will not make you feel like you need a shower." I honestly thought that would be an end to it - perhaps I'd get a polite "Oh, it was fun!" in a few weeks. I honestly suspected it might sit on her shelf gathering dust forever, and I would not have judged her for it.
Instead, I started getting texts about how much she liked it - how easy it was to read, how she wasn't expecting to be so engrossed she finished it in one sitting, how much fun it was and what should she read next.
Today she dragged her boyfriend shopping for new comics; I got a panicked text from him - they didn't have the next Fables! What did I suggest instead! - I missed out on answering because I was at my new job where I'm still nervous enough I don't let myself check my phone unless I'm on break - but apparently she bought the first volume of Madame Xanadu because she thought it looked cool.
And that's my story, interwebs. Just one more of the million examples of how it's not that chicks don't dig comics, they just don't dig exploitation.
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Date: 2012-03-22 11:37 pm (UTC)I know what you mean about the paragon/renegade options too. One thing I liked about ME3 was that it changed to being more of a "reputation" system, where some things add to paragon and some to renegade but some just add to your overall reputation (which increases your bar with the same ratio of paragon/renegade) and having the special paragon or renegade options generally comes with your reputation rather than your skill in one of the other. I'm also not sure if they gave me renegade points or not, but the overall emotional tone in ME3 did make me choose a fair number of fatalistic, rather than aggressive responses on the "renegade" area of the wheel when talking to my teammates and I was actually really satisfied with the responses I got and didn't feel they were out of character for my heroic Shepard. Stuff like...like acknowledging someone's probably gonna die instead of being perky "keep fighting and we'll win!" or admitting that I would have been willing to kill Person X if I'd really had to rather than insisting I'd always magically find another way?
It's interesting that you talk about the lack of having to think about your choices though, because, well, to jump ahead a bit in your comment - I think that plays a very big role in why some people are disatisfied with the ending. Without spoilers or pressure to eventually agree with me, I actually adored the ending and have...deeply mixed feelings about Bioware's response. My hope is that they are adding to the existing endings with more context rather than adding any alternate endings, which I believe is what their statement implies for...well a whole host of reasons. I'm gonna make a post about it...possibly even later tonight. Or at least try and make some kind of post about it - I'm not sure I could contain all my thoughts in one.
Re: romancing: mwahahahahahahaa! Actually I've never really had trouble getting people to pay attention to me, more I have trouble ever actually following through with romances in the way I at all intended. Becka's Hilarious Mass Effect Romantic Mishaps is...another post I need to make. But first I need to see what new and inventive ways ME3 finds to screw up my GuyShep's playthrough (other than denying me my ORIGINAL thwarted goal of seducing Kaiden because I went and dun killed him when I realised I couldn't in ME1...)
You DO get an achievement for teh sexxing though, so you may wanna go back and hook up with Jacob. ;)
TALI IS MY FAVOURITE but she will forever be my adopted daughter. For some reason - and I admit this has nothing to do with the game - in my head she is forever 12 years old. *facepalm*
Thinking about it now, I think my Renegade Shepard went for Miranda not Jack because I felt less...I don't know, exploitative that way. I though, being in-character, he'd get his Renegade kicks out of err, conquering that challenge, and Jack was broken enough I didn't really feel right entering a relationship with her I had no intention of taking seriously. But I was kind of fine with breaking Miranda's heart. And I wanted the achievement since the game guilt-tripped me into monogamy (well, terrifying-fish-secretary-excepted-monogamy) with my FemShep playthrough and you get no achievement for sticking with Liara in the Shadow Broker DLC.
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Date: 2012-03-23 05:45 pm (UTC)I'm still on the second game. I'm only playing in short spurts now because I'm dealing with the husks and they freak me out! They just crawl out from everywhere and swarm you and it is not awesome. I just have to take breaks because of the stress.
Really glad to hear about the Reputation System having changed. And yes, my Shep has also been choosing some of the less positive responses here and there(as well as utilized the Renegade option a couple of times) because that's how I realistically see her responding to those situations.
Oh, you do? Great! That ups the odds that I'll like it as well. I know a lot of people are annoyed by abrupt/dark/open endings, but not me :D And no, it really doesn't sound like some kind of alternate ending is forthcoming, just more... "closure" is the word they used, I think? And yay I saw you posted! Just steering clear until I'm all caught up(honestly that might not be until Summer gets here).
I love Tali so much! I just wanna explore the Universe with her and talk about history and technology.
RoadSpace trip! \o/Ah yes, that makes sense re: Jack vs Miranda. Ahh yes the Liara thing. Nothing's happened there since the "catching up" achievement. Maybe that's after I go through the Omega 4 Relay or something? Not sure if that's the big finale or if I have to go back and do something else after.
Btw, after this I am totes going to go for Dragon Age as well *glomps Bioware*