I'm gettin' married! To a boy!

[beccatoria]

Cuz, well, I'm getting married in about seven weeks and I figure I should probably make some sort of official announcement or somesuch. Since it keeps being pointed out to me that I've forgotten to tell people. Or they thought I was joking.

So, yeah. I'm getting married. To a boy. In Vegas. In my jeans. In 7 weeks.

Kev says my dad'll have to hold his camcorder because my ma's probably gonna have to hold Jo Jo the plastic dinosaur. His parents aren't coming.

It's a bit freaky. But since I'm probably going to be moving to Korea to try out that whole teaching thing in January, I figure it's a good idea. We're practically married anyway at this point.

So...go me?

And wish me luck telling my work because they're gonna make such a bloody fuss.

Comments

[beccatoria.livejournal.com]

Well...I don't really think I am engaged. We decided to get married quite a while ago, as in...end of last year? But I don't have an engagement ring or anything. I didn't get a big proposal. It was more sort of, "Shit, we have to get out of this town as soon as humanly possible. Wait, we're utterly broke. Well, next year? Yes! We'll do that thing in Korea because we can afford that and we need a big CHANGE. Hmm...looking at this we really oughta get married if we're gonna do that. Oh, well, okay then."

OTOH, we've known we were going to marry each other for a really long time. It was just one of those things we'd say. I can't remember who said it first, you know, "Well, one day, when we're married..." I mean, I've been dating him since just after I turned 18; I'm 24 now. We kind of grew up together I think, weird as that sounds.

[gonzo21.livejournal.com]

Doesnt' sound weird at all. Sounds like you're best friends. And thats the dream scenario as far as I'm concerned. If I had a wish, it would be to marry somebody who was my best friend.

[beccatoria.livejournal.com]

Yeah, we are best friends and...and I don't underestimate how amazingly lucky I am in that regard. I really don't know what I did to deserve it, but in some past life I must have racked up some seriously good karma.

[projectcyborg.livejournal.com]

I looked up your birthdate in your userinfo before I even read this comment ;). the mind boggles. I can't really imagine what it would be like to have a first love last, but more power to you. I grew up with my clyde_man (since I was 20), and grew out of her in some ways, but it was never the marrying/soulmates sort of thing.

anyway, it sounds like a perfect wedding! congratulations, and have fun.

[beccatoria.livejournal.com]

Thank you :)

It was...never something I imagined for myself actually. I come from a long line of hippies and rebels and women who got married far too late in life to much younger men! I think getting married now, to a guy I've been dating since I was a teenager is probably the thing I've done that's most shocked my parents!

I grew up expecting I'd learn one day who I was with an utterly shattered heart and what it felt like to break someone else's. And learn about the breadth of people I could be attracted to, and under what circumstances, and the breadth of people who could be attracted to me. I expected to learn the difference between one love and another, and perhaps what it was like to love someone I always knew I'd leave. I expected to grow out of people It's odd to think that these are aspects of myself I may never fully experience when so many people have.

So I do - I appreciate your mind boggling; mine does too.

But...this is the hand I got dealt and I wouldn't trade it, and I absolutely appreciate your taking the time to drop by here and wish me well. Thank you. :) *hugs*

[projectcyborg.livejournal.com]

that's a beautiful catalog. being life-partnered doesn't necessarily preclude all those things. and others you can just as well do without. I mean, I've never been through a breakup, and I don't plan on it.

oh, and I meant to say: don't go to korea! *pout* I want you to stay in Cardiff. at least until em and I get to come visit.

[beccatoria.livejournal.com]

Thanks :) And...I understand what you mean. Experience, especially emotional experience and knowing yourself doesn't need to be achieved through "conventional" means.

I pretty much am going to Korea though. But only for a year! I'll be in Cardiff between January and March/April 2008, then away for a year (if all goes to plan!), then back in Cardiff again for a while to get on my feet for I don't know how long before considering moving anywhere else.

Our friend Addy says we should move to Bournemouth because according to a survey 82% of people in Bournemouth are happy and that's the highest in the UK. Which isn't the worse reason I've heard of to move someplace. But that'd be waaaay in the future!

But if you ever are in Cardiff, even if I'm not there to offer couches to crash on, I'll ABSOLUTELY come visit/see if I can bug my parents into lending you guys their spare room! :)

[projectcyborg.livejournal.com]

you're so sweet!

iamsab has ambitions of going to the UK to see the Tennant/Stewart Hamlet. I never should have told her about that! anyway, I'm still skeptical. but if it actually happens, I really hope it doesn't happen after you leave for Korea. that would be silly. but no doubt there will be future trips to Cardiff for us!

[nomoreanonymous.livejournal.com]

Hey Congratulations! I wish you both an eternity of happiness, well a 100 years or so any way! Getting married in Las Vegas is gonna be so cool, its so surreal there its gonna seem like a dream.

I wouldnt worry too much about things you are missing out on. If you get it right first time then all you are missing is times where you would get it wrong. What most people learn is what mistakes not to make again. If you havent made that mistake to begin with then you done really have any thing to learn. Experience can be a bit over
rated I mean for example do you really have to of been near death in order to cherish life to its fullest. Your going to be enjoying the good stuff and skipping over the bad.

Teaching in Korea should be one big adventure its an amazing place. I hear its good money and and a great chance to save some up. I know a friend who teaches in Japan and he loves it.

congrats!